The host of a private party hired a server to assist, then discovered she had put out a tip jar. Was she right to confiscate ...

I was sorry that she did not feel I was paying her enough, and that she felt the need to seek compensation from my guests.

GENTLE READER: Inclined to side with mothers whenever possible, Miss Manners is happy to say she agrees with yours. And with ...

I hold an annual party, for which I hire a person to assist me in setting it up, maintaining the buffet and serving drinks. She has always done a great job.

GENTLE READER: Inclined to side with mothers whenever possible, Miss Manners is happy to say she agrees with yours. And with you. It is rude to leave out a tip jar in a private home. It screams, as ...

In today's Miss Manners column, advice columnist Judith Martin responds to the etiquette of employees seeking tips from ...

I noticed she had set up a tip jar next to the drinks. I was horrified. I went over and grabbed the jar, then pulled her aside and said that I was sorry that she did not feel I was paying her ...

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After the party, I called my mother and told her what happened. Like me, she was horrified that someone would seek tips at a party that I was hosting.

I noticed she had set up a tip jar next to the drinks. I was horrified. I went over and grabbed the jar, then pulled her aside and said that I was sorry that she did not feel I was paying her ...